Speaking the unspoken is a practice, a daily commitment to consistently tap into a life long journey of endless potential personal discovery and joy, based on the everyday reality that we are both simply and complexly a reflection of all our relationships.

To be in this practice, each of us commits to creating environments of trust, love, affinity, and compassion for our self and for others, acknowledging the discovery of our self and our love for our self is inseparable from our relationships. At any given moment in time, we are our relationships…past, present, and anticipated.

By appreciating that no individual is capable of having the identical genetics and experiences of any other individual, we recognize each of us inherently brings a unique perception of feelings and events to any conversation. This is nature’s way of encouraging us to share our perceptions so we can understand what those perceptions actually are. Otherwise we tend to live in a world of self-reinforcing feelings and thoughts that remain mostly unspoken, based on conclusions we infer from what we observe, combined with our past experiences.

Speak what you feel
We acknowledge each of us has a unique predisposition to experience what we perceive through our senses. We appreciate that in a millisecond those sensations are converted into our beliefs, feelings, intuitions, and expectations. This causes fear, blame, labeling and judgment. This cause and effect is self-reinforcing. Therefore we seldom speak what we feel.

We are certain we are right because our truth is based on our perceptions and we believe those perceptions should be obvious to others. We either communicate to show we are right, or most often, do not communicate, based on the assumption we are right. We decide conversations would simply become a debate and presume these conversations to be inherently hopeless? Our experience has been that conversations we have tried to have to share our feelings and perspectives are usually combative or become a one-way “dumping.” This is typical because we have waited too long to express our self. We also have little experience with how to have these conversations. Initial attempts are awkward and we retreat from them quickly.

Honesty in relationships
The practice of speaking the unspoken is based on communicating our perception without the need to right, without blame, labeling, judgment, or expectation. To be in the practice of speaking the unspoken, one must release the need for control, manipulation, and hidden agendas to be responsible for creating an environment of trust and compassion. We need this environment to experience self-love and personal discovery. We want this environment for our self and the other person, so we can be in honest integrity when sharing our perception. What would our life be like if we could be in honest integrity in all our relationships? First we need to start with the relationships that are the most important to us.

The sense of fear and hopelessness of conversation reinforces separation…causing us to not experience our own ability to love our self and to love others. Speaking the unspoken reinforces connection…causing affinity, and hope. We embrace the giving of our perception as a gift and the receiving of the other person’s perception as a gift. The two perceptions allows each of us to learn and discover what is behind the perception, providing each other with the magic of possibility, the opportunity to be in on-going discovery of the mystery of our unique personal journey.